Adulting black girl adventures

A little bit about me: I was born and bred in a small town called Chiawelo, located in Johannesburg, South Africa. An African girl, no lady, living with anxiety, who, despite all odds, managed to rise above the challenge and captain this journey I call life. To say it is not easy to get to that point would be an understatement, till today, I still find myself falling off the wagon, but I pick myself up and keep moving. As they say, it’s not how hard you fall, it’s how you choose to rise.

There are past and current traumas I have experienced; some I have managed to heal while others are still a work in progress. Let us face it, does anything ever get done? Are we ever truly satisfied? With that in mind, why do we ever think it’s possible to stop growing and learning while our nostrils still breath in air and our hearts pump blood?

My saving grace has and will always be my family, my day one. And kid you not, we are dysfunction at its best, but I would not trade them for any other family because they have helped shape me into the incredible woman I am becoming. My joys and pains with them will unravel as you take this journey with me.

I have always dreamt of climbing up the corporate ladder and becoming the CEO of a multinational company. However, this year I found myself experiencing a career crisis. I am at a crossroads and I have no idea what I want to do with my life. For once I have opportunities, but my biggest struggle is deciding. It has led me to question who I am and what I would like the future to look like for me, not what others want but what I want. And it has not been an easy path, the difficulty was not realizing I had a problem until I did. I am currently still navigating through this and will share my adventure on this blog.

Finally, the one feeling that keeps the world moving, gives you hope and a purpose to keep dreaming, no, not money, I am talking about LOVE. You will all come to learn that this chapter of my life is rather interesting to say the least, stay tuned …

What you can expect: Once a week, I will summarize my thoughts which will also encompass past experiences. Some days are better than others, but I try to enjoy each waking moment, it’s the small wins that keep us going and they always come from within!

Support group: I have also created a weekly support group called “Growing adults”. I created this platform as a safe space to allow young adults who are part of the workforce to express themselves and also provide advice to their peers. Everyone who attends has agreed to maintain confidentiality to ensure everyone is comfortable to speak their truth, no matter how difficult. Gradually, as we grow and hopefully receive sponsorships, we will introduce therapists/psychologists to weigh in and offer us their professional opinion. Currently, if you are one and would like to volunteer, please reach out to me as this would be highly appreciated by our family. 

Disclaimer: This blog is based on my day-to-day struggles, triumphs and importantly, learnings that inspire growth within me. The weekly journaling you are about to read represents views and opinions based on my life experiences. Currently, I will not be disclosing my name for professional reasons.